Looking thru the Fence (Diamonds in the Rough)

SSunby the author of A Letter To My SisteTrs: The Way Out



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February 6, 2012    Because so much energy is used in surviving amidst turmoil when someone is in an abusive relationship, the body of Christ suffers because the abused person becomes unproductive and no longer bears fruit. By being unfruitful, there is no growth. We become stagnant. This can lead to deathl spiritually and naturally. Remember, out Lord cursed the unproductive fig tree. It was unfruitful and not doing what it was created to do, and that was to bear fruit. Christ came to give us life, and that more abundantly.


January 20, 2012   I have neglected by blog page. Will try to do better in the future. So much has been going on, but remember, God is up to something. Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit. Turn thge t.v. off and turn the plate down. Be an over-comer, not merely a survivor. Reach out to others and pull them through that entrance into an abundant life. Be triumphant and successful in Christ Jesus. Allow Him to help you reach your full potential. Take action. Love is an action word. God is love. Use the tools He has given you to work with. You can't do it on your own. Remember, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. Rest in Him.


OCT. 11,1011 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. There are a lot of events taking place to highlight and bring attention to the need for education in the domestic violence arena. The Purple for Peace Lunche
on was a great success as we listened to an excellent presentation focusing on men and their responsibility as leaders of the next generation. My daughter and I have held several book signings and  I have been  interviewed several times by the local Jackson television stations. One lesson I have learned is the media knows how to leave out words and add words as they give their own slant to a story. I was surprised on more than one occasion when I watched the interviews I had given. Even the pictures are used to show what they want the public to perceive. There was one occasion when the reporter told us he was just testing the camera and wow, was I surprised when I saw the morning news showing me in a shot I did not know was going to be aired.IN SPITE OF IT ALL, THE FOCUS IS ON EDUCATING AND MAKING SOCIETY AWARE OF THE DESTRUCTION OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. IF WE LEARN TO LOVE OTHERS AS GOD HAS LOVED US, WE CAN DESTROY THIS MONSTER.
Don't forget to attend the domestic violence seminar and health fair at Greater Faith Calvary, 305 N Railroad St. Canton, Ms. We have excellent speakers who will be dealing with provocative subjects such as who are the abusers and incest in the church. There will be many free health screenings. See you there Oct. 29, 8:00 a.m.

August  23, 2011   The new book is here. Title: From One to 365 Days/ A survival manual for domestic abuse and violence overcomers. Hurry, get your copy today:
ISBN: 978-0-9795628-7-7 

amazon.com

Milestone Christian Books 115A-Westside Cove, Pearl, Ms. 39208
(601) 936-3513       

b&n.com       

Union St. Books    107 Union St.
on the square in Canton, Ms. (601) 427-0703


My spirit has been freed. I know God is doing something more for me. He is moving me into different dimensions day by day. I was honored by receiving the Aida Ford Scholar Award, presented by the Pentecostal Assemblies of the World, Inc. in Orlando, Florida on August 1, 2011.

Do you know what abuse is? Have you been pushed or shoved? Did someone hold you to keep you from leaving? How about being abandoned or subjecting you to reckless driving? If you have been subjected to unwanted and uncomfortable touching, you have been abused. Forcing sex of any kind is violent and abusive. Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, verbal and financial. Abusers are usually controlling, manipulating, dominating and fail to accept responsibility for their behavior. Domestic violence is a crime. It can lead to murder. Abusive behavior usually escalates in frequency and intensity. EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO LIVE FREE OF VIOLOENCE. DON'T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR. DO NOT ALLOW THREATS AND INTIMIDATION TO KEEP YOU FROM REPORTING ABUSE.


June 4/2011
I am excited. Just sent my new book to the printer. It is a daily devotional for over comers of domestic violence & abuse. It has been a job but it was well worth it. It will hit the streets in July. Will keep you posted. More info. on the home page and events page.


4/13/2011
    
Walk in the liberty and gifts God has given you. Find your place and go forward. God loves you. Spend time with Him. "In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." (Proverbs 3:6)

4/5/2011  Don't let anyone or anything block your progress. When you are in an abusive relationship, everyone suffers because you become unproductive and unfruitful. You become stagnant, which can lead to death, both spiritually and naturally.  Christ came to give us abundant life. It is my prayer that all will be liberated and walk in your God-given gifts. FIND YOUR WAY OUT!  Become healed from the inside to the outside.  Anger, hurt and bitterness will destroy you. Don't spew out poison that will contaminate and defile instead of enlightening and encouraging.

3/29/2011
   The devil has deceived so many into thinking they must suffer abuse in silence. His strategy is to divide and conquer. If we don't communicate, he can work his cunning tactics without any resistance.

3/25/2011
  At some point in your life, you must come to the realization that you cannot sit passively by and not contribute or be a factor in the lives of those with whom you share a destiny.

3/11/2011
   I am not a counselor. I don't have license for such, but I am a teacher of the Word of God and His Word is the final authority for all of our lives, whether we acknowledge it or not. Satan is overcome by the blood of The Lamb and the word of our testimony.

I want so much to see all of my brothers and sisters lead the abundant life Jesus gave us and to walk in Kingdom authority. We have everything we need when we receive His Holy Spirit (See 1 Peter1: 3-10). Life and it's many ups and downs will continue, but you will be able to go through with God's grace.

We are to put the enemy under our feet, not be trampled on by him. Receive all the gifts God has for you. My most precious gift after receiving the Holy Ghost is the peace of God that passes all understanding. You can't function in turmoil and confusion.



3/9/2011   What's going on? There are 3200 dog pounds in the USA and approximately 1500 domestic violence shelters. Mississippi is the 5th highest in domestic violence. Comment on my forum page.

2/21/2011  God is good and worthy to be praised! The weather has been doing such phenomenal things all over the world. Even while such severe ice and snow storms are wrecking havoc in some places, here in Mississippi, we are expecting a 78 degree temperature today. That's the way it is in our lives also. We may be expecting one thing but something else happens, the opposite from what we expect or even want. There are many seasons in our life. Sometimes it is warm and tranquil, while other times it is cold and stormy. The good thing about the varying seasons is, they pass. We can learn from them. When that same season rolls around again, we will know how to prepare for it and ride it out.


2/10/2011   This is amazing. The following blog was written approximately 3 years ago and nothing has really changed:  There are so many sitting in church, not being healed, because they are remaining silent. This only allows the perpetrators to continue their sinful behavior. It is a sin. David was abused by Saul. If you know anything about the cycle of abuse and its characteristics, the pattern is followed there. Abigail was married to a fool: Nabal, means fool. She overcame her situation by being bold, yet humble and she was rewarded with her life and the life of her household. There is so much erroneous teaching about domestic abuse in the church. I found an excellent web-site: abigail.org. I am also teaching a class at my church: "Abigail's Daughters." Guess what - not many attend. No one wants to be associated with it, for many different reasons. The same result when I taught "Women in Crisis." We have got to break that barrier of silence. If we continue to sweep it under the rug, the pile only gets bigger, and we trip over it.

1/20/2011
The Oxford dictionary says crisis is 1. A time of intense difficulty or danger 2. A time when a difficult or important decision must be made 3. A severe problem or breakdown.

Your crises may not be a crisis for me and my crisis may not be a crisis for you, but one thing is certain, we all have crisis’ in our lives. Some are more obvious, while some are not obvious. We as women, are good at covering up and making things look good. Because it is a crisis that does not get everyone’s attention, does not mean it is less in intensity. Many times, that type of crisis is the one that effects us most, because it brings internal conflict that silently destroys us. I believe it’s called stress. Stress is a silent killer. By the time you become aware that it is present, it has already started it’s destructive work.

It is sometimes hard to make decisions, and even after we make a decision, we are plagued with the thought of whether I made the right decision. Often our thinking process shuts down on us in a time of crisis. Fear can take over and paralyze us.

The condition is preferably over looked in many ministries. It could be because of naivety, lack of experience and not knowing how to confront the problems, but because of the growing numbers of women in crisis, we can no longer avoid ministering in these type of situations. It is vitally important for a woman in crisis to have a support system. Seek help.

12/29/10  I thank God for another year in more ways than one, since this is also my birthday. I am grateful for each one of you that took the time to visit my web-site. It has been an amazing year. May not have been much to some but it was exciting to me. I'm looking forward to 2011. I know God has great things in store for me. MAY YOU BE BLESSED AND PROSPER IN ALL WAYS! Life is a gift. Unwrap it slowly and don't forget to thank the giver.

  I thank God for another year in more ways than one, since this is also my birthday. I am grateful for each one of you that took the time to visit my web-site. It has been an amazing year. May not have been much to some but it was exciting to me. I'm looking forward to 2011. I know God has great things in store for me. MAY YOU BE BLESSED AND PROSPER IN ALL WAYS! Life is a gift. Unwrap it slowly and don't forget to thank the giver.
THREE STEPS TO ETERNAL LIFE During this season of holiday festivities and giving thanks everyone likes to receive gifts.  The greatest gift we can receive comes from God, who gave His only begotten son, so we may have eternal life (John 3:16).    The best way to receive the full benefit of that gift is found in Acts 2:38 where we are shown a process that consists of 3 steps leading to eternal life:  Repent
Be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ
 Receive the gift of the Holy Ghost Now eternal Life awaits. If you have already opened your gift, share it with someone else.
HAVE A BLESSED HOLIDAY! P.s.– Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year; may these Three holidays represent three steps to eternal life For you.
10/26/10
Titus 2:3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;No matter how old we are, as long as we have breath in our bodies, God has a purpose for us. There is a popular song that says “We don’t have to pay to laugh; it doesn’t cost a thing to smile.” The flesh will tell us that because it is uncomfortable or in pain, we can’t be kind and gentle to others. The spirit will always remain the same in spite of conditions and circumstances. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever.10/18/10
It is time to confront domestic abuse and violence. It is too prominent in our society. Let's get up off our seats; get on our feet and abolish it. I am speaking out boldly against this evilness that has invaded our homes and churches. It is time for the organized church to start aggressively ministering to the survivors of this abomination. Help them to become victors, not victims. Usher forth healing so they can come out from behind the fence of guilt, shame, embarassment, hurt, intimidation, etc.


5/17/2010 While many place emphasis upon the wife being submissive to the husband (regardless), what should be learned from the scripture when it says the husband is to treat the wife as Christ treats the Church?  Is Christ abusive or violent?

There is nothing more valuable than the peace of God that no one can 
understand. It doesn't depend on bank account, house, clothing, car or social status. God fulfills our every need by bringing stability into our lives in spite of the turmoil whirling around us. After you pray, put your faith in action. Seek the Lord's guidance and go forward in the path He leads you on. Take one day at a time. 

Don't look at the clouds. Look at the cleansing the rain brings. This time of year, we grumble about the pollen. I received a different revelation of it today. The pollen is God's way of clearing the dead stuff away so new life can come forth. Use your adversities to help bring you into the newness of life. Don't get stuck there.
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